Having said that, I would not want to go back to college ever again. Once in a life time was more than enough. That being said, I didn't mean that I didn't enjoy my times at Columbia. I was saying that because I had been unfortunately raped multiple times by my boyfriend, Ed, at Yale and I had been in the process of suing him for domestic violence, date rapes, sexual assaults and deliberate transmission of STDs and HIV.
What? HIV? Yes, Ed had had more than 1000 sex partners by his 30s already. Everybody called him "田雞" because he was a frequent visitor to the chicken brothels in his town, Kwun Tong and he liked to go around calling innocent women chickens.
He had been engaged in wives and husbands swapping sex marathon parties in Hong Kong and orgies at Yale, even when he had a stable sex partner, either his wife or girlfriend. He was also a transvestite, transsexual-to-be and a bisexual. He was threatening me with his letters saying that he would go around and tell everybody I was a gold digger if I wouldn't go out with him. So I had to succumb to his 淫威, aka lust.
I was reluctant to report to the student services office at Columbia because he said he was backed by Yale, as the valedictorian of his year receiving multiple honors at his graduation. I pretended to have had sex with him, even though his penis never penetrated successfully through my vagina. The reason for this was that I was a virgin. And he was pushing his penis by force. I asked him to try it slowly and gently. But I suspected he was deaf and he would only go fast and furious. Pushing his penis by force would not make it happen, especially when he did it with someone who had no sexual experience. He had mistaken my labia minora for my cervix and he didn't notice that he had not penetrated my hymen at all. As a result, my urethra was torn and I had had urinary tract infections as a result of his rapes multiple times when I was a freshman and sophomore.
Everyone had envied my relationship with him, but little did they know the domestic violence I went through as a woman raised in a patriarchal society. I decided to sue him, not just for myself, but for many vulnerable women out there. If I wouldn't come out to expose his kinkiness, many women would still be beguiled by the masks he put on. I didn't want him to infect more innocent women because he was a carrier of multiple STDs and HIV. This was a criminal offense. I stepped out to defend my case because I was doing it for all the trans, gay men, straight men and women out there who could be his victim of sexual offense. I didn't want him to corrupt and contaminate the straight, trans, and LGBT communities in Hong Kong. Even though this process was humiliating and embarrassing and I went through post trauma stress disorders after his date rapes, I felt that I owed Hong Kong people and those who had fantasized about going to an institution like Yale the ultimate truth. It was that Ed, grown up in the slump and brothel district of Hong Kong, was a sick man, physically and mentally who dreamed that through education and an Ivy League degree, he could go out there and rape women as he wanted just because he had a perfect transcript.
I had reported my case against Edmond Tin Ka Ho from Kwun Tong to the New York Police Department and the Hong Kong Police Force. If necessary, I would further my actions through legal means because I could not let social injustice persist like this at the expense of Hong Kong people's sexual health. If I didn't act then, he would continue to rape many more women, who could be my friends, my classmates, my schoolmates, my acquaintances, and random strangers who believed in an Ivy League degree.
He videotaped our intimacy in the dorm rooms during our 4 year long distance relationship, and I believed this could be the evidence of his criminal sexual offense and I urged everyone out there to stop Ed from harming more innocent women in Hong Kong and in other parts of the world, because if we didn't stop him in time, he could go to Japan, Thailand, Vietnam, Philippines and any country for paid and/or unpaid sex trades.
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