女性在現今的社會已經擁有和男性差不多的地位，女性可以投票，女性可以提出離婚，女性可以就業，甚至找到比男性更優越的工作和賺取更高的薪金。很多人認為女性已經擺脫了以前的枷鎖和社會地位的牽絆。但我卻認為，就算在香港這個摩登的大都會，我們還是可以見證很多社會對女性的歧視。 我生於八十年代的香港。當年的香港都看無線電視，大家都講廣東話，大家都看同樣的電視劇，彷彿如果不看的話，你就是非主流的異類。作為香港土生土長的我，當然也有看那些年大家都看過的電視劇。我認為，香港男性在無線電視古裝劇的薰陶之下，經常說出對女性不尊重和歧視的言論，我曾經為此感到非常困擾。 香港人其實對中國歷史頗爲認識，這要感謝無線電視多年以來推出多套經典的古裝劇有關。那些年，我們都看了《楚漢驕雄》、《尋秦記》、《金枝慾孽》、《還珠格格》、《封神榜》、《回到三國》等。我們對於歷史人物的了解往往透過電視輸出的資訊而潛移默化地形成。 透過模仿無線電視的宮鬥劇情節，我們往往喜歡把朋友預設成為敵人，把敵人預設成為朋友。我們認為那是離間、反間的高招。安插線人，偷情報，竊取秘密，成為了八九十年代成長的共同

So what is love? I grew up in Hong Kong. So I don't really believe in love. I have had crushes on guys when I was a kid. But that didn't last. I think, to conclude, love is just a rush of love hormones or adrenaline that wouldn't last. Maybe it will last for a year at most. But it is just a very intangible feeling that will slip away. I did feel in love with one person in my life. That is very rare. I don't think I have fallen in love again in my life with other guys. Am I st

i grew up in wanchai. so i lived next to my school. just a very typical childhood, nothing special. i used to want to live in jardine's lookout or tai tam when i was growing up. because the rich kids in st francis usually reside there. or tai hang, or happy valley. i don't like the city landscape of hk. don't you think hk is very ugly? i mean, the more places i have been to, the more i realize hk is ugly. like hk is so full of ugly buildings. some buildings are orange, green,

so i was introduced to jasmine by a mutual friend, mona lam. mona went to st stephen girls. then she studied journalism at hku or something. she worked as an anchor at tvb. and she is now the press person for mtr. anyways, thats not really the point. the point i am trying to make is that mona is actually from 北京/新疆 but like me, she grew up in hk. so she speaks native mandarin and cantonese like me. so mona was my good hangout buddy from way back. she introduced to many friend

many people thought that i had my first drug experience with gordon. actually, gordon was not that person. mingyu was. freshman year, mingyu invited a bunch of us to his room in john jay. it was like before a college party downtown. after we had dinner at john jay dining hall, we went straight to his room upstairs. there were me, sammy, mingyu and a bunch of other asian guys, like devin (indian) and gilbert (philippino). and we had hookah in his room. mingyu got a hookah pot

so i really like going back to beijing. when i was growing up, i always went back to beijing for holidays, long or short. i almost never stayed in hk for holidays. to me, hk is just a place for me to study. beijing is where my home is. i really like the guys from northern region of china. 北京男孩兒很有男孩的範兒. like when they talk right, they have this 兒化音 and like they are so tall and built. and they are so not gay looking. they are really masculine without trying. i don't know why a

oh another thing i don't like about gordon, is that he is jason's good friend right. they like went to barcelona in a group of hk people freshman year. jason is the most pretentious guy i have ever known in my entire life. like the places that normal people travel are like japan, korea, germany, italy, england or like taiwan and france right. but jason freaking like went to all these places i have never even heard of. like central asia, afghanistan, croatia, pakistan, saudi a

i first saw gordon in a photo on facebook. he was at jason's birthday party. i noticed he was korean. and after a short while, i saw him in person, outside john jay dining hall. i was with sammy and kelly at the time. you know i was always with sammy and kelly cos we like lived together for four years. i was introduced to gordon by jason. gordon said something that was funny, i laughed. and he said my face was funny. that was a bit offensive. i don't know why he like commente

because of mingyu, i have become a hopeless romantic. i admit that actually before I met mingyu, i never believed in love. period. no further explanation needed. hk is a very materialistic place. everyone just cares about money. marriage is calculated. there is no love in this city. to be honest, i think hk is a very skewed place. i don't like where i came from. if i could, i would rather live in another city, like beijing, seoul, or whatever place. just not hk. i don't like

do you know what Beijing people hate the most? stinginess. cheap behavior. what is considered cheap in beijing? stinginess when you order food. in beijing, my mother always ordered a lot of food if she had friends coming over from beijing. she always reminds me, 南方人吃餃子按隻算，北方人吃餃子按斤算. if you want to take people out for dinner, and if you want to save money, you may as well not take them to dinner cos it is actually doing you an anti flavor. if you originally try to take people

I had a Korean 선배. His name is Joseph (Lee Jie). He was a grad student studying master at Columbia. He went to hamilton college for undergrad. He is very funny because he always says some funny things that don't make any sense. I think Koreans are very funny. Like they are so serious when they say trash. Like they mean it. Okay, so this 선배 right, he says his name is Lee Jie so he says he is a very observant and understanding person. He says he understands me very well cos he

So as I said, sophomore year, mingyu disappeared from my radar. I moved on with my life. Took classes at the engineering school. Worked on assignments. Earned money as the TA in the math department. I had like internships lining up and I went to all those recruiting events and stuff to hopefully get a job. I already knew I probably would major in IEOR, for a bunch of reasons I explained earlier. I actually told Kelly so many times that I like 張晨 and as I said, she didn't appr

Actually, I worked so hard in high school that I felt like a machine. HK is very fast paced. And hectic. It was only through Columbia that I felt that I am finally human. Through living with my friends like Sammy and Kelly, that I felt I have a heart. That I have feelings. That I am a human with affections. I don't feel that in HK. I felt true friendships, I felt true love when I was with my friends at Columbia. Mingyu was like my 白月光. 可遠觀而不可褻瀆....Still that feeling of being

Even though he already went out with my friend, I still looked forward to all the events organized by KSA, all the meetings, model auditions, and outings and drinking sessions. I still think I would like to be around him, even as his gf's best friend. To be honest, I think I could not date him even if he asked me out in freshman year. I had a boyfriend. And even if I was single, he is too hot to be around me, plus he is a pre med. I noticed something. Mingyu never stood next

One of the reasons why I like Mingyu is that he can read my mind. Without me telling him anything. Like we are in sync. But Gordon Park doesn't seem to really care. Or understand me on a deeper level. I think he is just a very jealous person. All he thinks about is whether I am in love with another person. But Mingyu seems to care about something a little less personal than that, like macro stuff. Very hard to explain. Whatever, maybe not. I just think that Mingyu is very obs

I had a lot of memories with mingyu, as a friend, and as his gf's best friend. Our relationship is platonic, of course. But my secret admiration for him is consistent. I don't like to show my affections. So I guess, even as his gf's best friend, I am still okay. I like to be around him, even though he already went out with Sammy. Me and Sammy were like really good friends. We were not in competition or anything. I sincerely think that she should go out with him too. Maybe bec

I went to an all girls school most of my life. But unfortunately, I had to go to college and I had a boyfriend at Yale. Even though it was long distance, it was unevitable that we had to spend weekends together. Therefore, we had to sleep together. I remember that feeling of intimacy with him. He is a sex addict. He has sex like eight days a week and he used me as a sex slave. I was just a hole to dissipate his sex drive and semens. And he liked to take pictures with me to br

Sammy took me to get a fake ID during orientation week. But it was so fake that I never got to use it. Sammy and I were really good friends. We ate together. We went to class together. She cooked for me when I had cramps. She took me to those Korean convenience stores to get microwavable rice. I told her my hands were so cold that my skin kinda cracked. She immediately bought me a pair of gloves from Gap. I have never been treated this nice by any friends in HK. I grew up in

So I am going to share a bit of information regarding whom I have liked for a long time. As you may know, I am actually a super shy and introverted person. The reason for this is becos I live in a very chaotic and competitive environment. I don't like to express my feelings, my likings, my love, my admiration. Because once it is exposed, it may very soon be taken away from me, due to heavy competition. I have never shared this deepest secret of mine until like really recently

A few days ago, when I was about to get up in the morning, a few words just popped up in my mind, like out of the blue. Would attraction suffice? The type of guys I am attracted to hasn't changed since the age of 3, at least for me. I still like the same type of guys. My first ever crush was my fiance, Oliver. He was a skater boy. He talks and walks like a black dude. Wealthy, good looking, not nerdy and much taller than me. Like an older brother. We used to meet every week.